Posted on April 28, 2022
Thirteen years ago Mark Brendon was divorced, unhappy and recovering from alcoholism. Then he started swinging. He hasn’t looked back since.
The first time I went swinging was about 13 years ago. My marriage had ended unhappily, I had been treated in rehab for alcoholism, where I was told not to start any relationship for 12 months because another person could alter my mood.
At first I responded as you might expect: with a certain amount of curiosity, a certain amount of excitement, and some distaste because of the misrepresentations that one reads constantly or sees on television.
Although I am a firm believer in loyalty and stable backgrounds for children, I had always found sexual fidelity and monogamy incomprehensible. I could not see the point of monogamy. So I said yes.
Before the event I thought the women would be either professionals or desperate and the men would want to display their own prowess. The automatic assumption is that these are people who cannot obtain sexual gratification without going to places formally established for that purpose.
If you want to both maintain a long-term relationship and enjoy sex in all its diverse forms then it is for you
On the contrary, what I discovered was a very civilised party. It was at a country house that is dedicated once a month to these practices. There were two or three reception rooms where you met people, drunk, ate from the buffet and chatted. Then upstairs there were the play rooms.
Play rooms generally take different forms. In this particular place there was one that was partially lit and one that was fully lit with a sex swing. There were jacuzzis and a swimming pool outside and a gazebo in the garden; anything you can think of to encourage fantasy. (more…)